That horrendous night can’t be rinsed off from my memory. It has left a lasting imprint on my mind and soul.  My friend and I were caught in that fuss which took my friend’s life and left me numb. I tried to help my friend till I started bleeding, but couldn’t support her much and she was dishonoured to my dismay.


What was our mistake? Was being out at midnight and catching a bus to reach our destination our fault? Was being a girl her mistake? Was I at fault that I wasn’t able to protect her from those beasts? Whom do I blame? Or hadn’t we been there at that time then she would have been alive.

I get goosefleshes whenever that night comes across my mind.


Well, the justice has been done, but not completely. One of the main accused was sentenced only for 3years coz he was juvenile. Was the offense that trivial that the guy was left with such an easy punishment? How can he be juvenile if he had those balls of committing that atrocious crime? But, our law has been made like that. I just wish that people become more sensible towards our women and stop harassing them any way. Torturing and outraging the honour of women is worse than murdering someone.

Female Infanticide in Usilampatti:

It is very sorry to note you that it remains still in Tamilnadu. Sex ratio was defeated alarmingly. The communities which are practicing female infanticide never feel that it is a big sin but it is socially justified. Cent percent case studies of our WED Trust witnessed that second girl child is disliked by the parental families so that they can be terminated after birth. John-Thor Dahlburg points out, (in \"Where killing baby girls \'is no big sin\',\" The Los Angeles Times [in The Toronto Star, February 28, 1994.]) that in the nearly 300 poor hamlets of the Usilampatti area of Tamil Nadu [state], as many as 196 girls died under suspicious circumstances [in 1993] He listed some methods of killing that melted the hearts. Some were fed dry, unhulled rice that punctured their windpipes, or were made to swallow poisonous powdered fertilizer. Others were smothered with a wet towel, strangled or allowed to starve to death.\"  It is unhappy to accept that above told modes were true. Now, local communities discovered the female baby in the mothers’ womb through sex scanning and then they do abortion.

Second girls:

           Most of the mothers who gave second female baby birth have been highly forced by their bridal family to do female infanticide although they like to keep the cute girl babies. If the mother saves the life of her second daughter and keeps well, bridal family deserted her or claims some additional dowry. Neighbor families and local community believed that having more girl children in the family is a curse and they ill treated them.


Gender injustice and female bias was the main root cause for this evil practice. Big dowry paying for the young women when she is getting marriage is causing fear for the couples who are having more than one daughter. Female children are not treated as heir of their family. Religious values are playing vital role in gender bias. As per Hindu rituals, funeral ceremony could not performed by women. Father who has only girl children is unable to go for heaven. It is believed that his soul remains in the dark hole of earth.

Efforts of State Government:

Tamilnadu state government enacted Prenatal Diagnostic Techniques Act (PNDT) 1994 to control the child sex detection scanning and formed monitoring committee at District level. It introduced cradle scheme for the girl children. Parents who is willing to do female infanticide can lay the girl baby in the cradle. State Government will look after it. Money is awarded for the young women under Marriage assistance scheme etc.,


WED Trust believed that gender equity practice in each family will dissolve the issue and eliminate female infanticide practice. Promote higher education and improve the vocational skill of the young women will enable them to have dignity and stand on their own feet. Women right education will enable them to claim practice and enjoy their human rights. Entitling immovable properties and share/partition the family endowments and properties will equip women to hold their good position in community and society. Women should perform the rituals and last ceremony for their parents will empower them to win heir/ successor of her own parents. Reactions against dowry and domestic violence will safe guard them.

Women are on the way of empowerment. Now girl babies are safe in the hands of them. No more gendercide tomorrow.

“Men and Women are Different but Equal”

---- Dharma Neethi. M,Sc., BL.,